Creating and maintaining plans with friends tends to be harder to accomplish as you get older.
Everyone has their own busy schedules, filled with work, family, significant others, and their own personal self-care time.
Through trial-and-error, I have found the best ways that work for me when working to create and keep those plans with friends.
One of the best ways to set and keep plans with friends, is to create a set date that you go out. Just as you would set up a day to go to bookclub or take a class, setting a scheduled day for your friends really helps. A colleague/friend and I go out to grab a meal every Monday after work. We try and switch the place up each week, and make a point to try new and different places. Even though we work together and are a floor apart, its hard to make plans around work and self-care. With a set date, we already know it is coming and I tend to schedule all other priorities, I may otherwise put ahead of time with friends, around this time.
Signing up for a class together is another great way to make plans with your friends. If you find something you both have been meaning to try but maybe needed the additional motivation of another person to do so, this is the perfect time to sign up together. When I lived in NYC, a friend and I would go to yoga every Tuesday in St. Marks and then grab Thai after. We would sometimes go a few other days throughout the week, if our schedules met, otherwise it was consistently on Tuesday.
Lastly, planning a trip together. Now this is much more time consuming and requires more in the expense area, but it is a fun and helpful way to spend time with a friend who might not be able to do something as consistent as weekly or bi-weekly. This is usually the most beneficial way to see my friends who maybe have children or live further away. Planning a trip doesn’t mean you are packing up for Cancún. It could be a weekend getaway or a small road trip. Having a trip set in the near future allows you time to plan and save for it. Its a great way to see your friends, and also see someplace new.